nostalgia the days of desktop What we expect beyond the screen.
's theme I want to talk goes very well with something that happened to me recently and I think that's symbolic state of mind with which we place ourselves in front of the new means of communication and, particularly, the screen of a PC and its keyboard. Story
the fact.
I happened to meet someone after two months since the last time. In this brief period while we exchanged of emails trying to get started, somehow, a conversation that ranges from daily to staff going through ideas about the world etc., etc., etc..
Not that the intensity of the exchange was likely to give the impression that then you really know, but, at least on my part, thought to have crossed easily the isolation barrier that today we build around, a bit 'to ethnocentrism, a little' self-defense. So, I thought just to have developed some capacity for dialogue.
After two months, and some mail, and it happened that I saw this person. Well, the approach was terrible, I felt uncomfortable and embarrassed, my voice trembled and I had difficulty even say a simple hello.
's strange, it is possible that between the "talk" via email and "talk" with words, sounds and vibrations by saying there could be so much difference. And I began to reflect on what had happened and why. The network is
strimento a fantastic, magical in some ways, but in the case of the conversation, in reality, and it is already known, allows you to create an effect of the alleged deviant or intentionally diverted party. This, in my opinion, is not because, well, not always between the two because there are those who want to pretend or deceive. Perhaps the risk of "false pretenses" is more noticeable in the chat, but this risk is not in the mail, the mail is communication between you know, there is no deceit, no cheating. Yet, the person that I went before was not exactly what I knew in the mail and conversation has been slow to start, and even when there was, did not reach any of the previously known levels, neither for brightness, nor for the content.
Yet we were the same people.
The screen, in fact, not only for protection, is also a mirror. The mirror of who is sitting opposite. The moment you start a mail there is no communication with the outside, but only with themselves. This means that I am I'm looking for the best words in the FRMA better. I'm not preparing a scam, just as there is no immediacy in the transmission, as is the case with the word, I can take as long as you want, correct, etc. to emphasize ...
But then, sending, I can only convey the words and, while it is true that the punctuation should also help to communicate the mood in the contents expressly on the other side there's only the words written, not spoken. This is communication in half.
When I read an email, I do not read that word and I play in my ability to understand, in my feeling and, above all, according to the level of knowledge that is the other person. When I read, therefore, as far as I read from the screen. It 's a bit like reading a book, the intent auctoris can be fleeting and what remains is the ability of the player to be in sympathy with the text. When I read I read an email I want to see and hear, I read those feelings that I feel, not who wrote it.
Perhaps that is why, then, the meetings are disappointing and you feel nostalgia "desktop".
This symptom may disappear if it is accepted that between writing an email and speak in person there are too many circumstances to create difference in transmission: space, time, and especially the raids outside the physical barrier. Across the screen, we are protected, filtered, mediated, in face to face you tend to re-present barriers for self-defense. And so we just want a little 'time and willingness to meet in harmony.
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